Today February 24th my family and I celebrated the life of a close friend Jessica Conception who now travels into the next life unexpectedly.

When I look at how beautiful she was in the light of her two beautiful children and loving husband 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦 whom like any other family were working hard towards the American dream🇺🇸. Even though like most, they struggled through ups and downs in career – family – and the daily grind, nevertheless they championed these challenges.

However our dear friend like many others in today’s culture of the middle aged adult. We feel that sense of disconnection because everything is so connected. 🎟Some feel that there is something that is suppose to happen that will awaken that disconnection, but never find it. 🧨Some feel that there is no real connection and everything is temporary.

We can find cultural evidence of this in the narratives of “I can do better on by myself than with you” or “You are better off with out me”! Theese narratives have dictated their way into the very foundation of the hip hop generation. Into the culture that permeated from that rebellious glamorous MTV generation over ran with gangsta lifestyles and ghetto fabulousness. What some would call putting on faces or putting up a front of whom multimedia culture conglomerates. & then, the real person gets lost in the real talk of the daily grind and things get pushed aside so then there’s the disconnect & the loss of hope.

📰1PETER 3:15 tells us to be ready to defend that hope that is with in us. It’s almost a call to arms asking the gentile believer to acknowledge that hope is existent in each and everyone of us and furthermore to be ready to explain it with patience and gently.

In as much as we like to believe in the narratives that shape our daily lives and help us communicate with one another we have to also realize that for some there is that disconnection of feeling alone in this big world 🌎 It’s up to us to raise the awareness that if you have that “I can do it alone attitude” then an outreach from the village may be needed to help that individual realize that they do not have to do it alone and then awaken that individuals sense of hope; that we are not better off with out them. And hopefully we can detect the mental instabillity in that individual to help them; since none of us really does it all on our own. And yes we all really need to depend on someone at some point in our lives.

I want to include some real facts because, there is a myth that suicide only affects others, but never people within our own circle. I say this because I too was stuck in this conundrum, but was struck with reality when my friend at age 30 committed suicide and he seemed to be the happiest person I knew who could chuckle off his problems. That’s what made me take a look at others whom I knew or had heard of that were expressing similar feelings of hopelessness and looking back I could see a trend developing from people I had known whom loss there lives to drugs & alcohol to those whom losses it to their thoughts of the past either way it seems that all of those roads led them to one outcome and that was to create a permanent solution to a temporary feeling.

🤛CRISIS DEFINED

A problem or situation that requires immediate action and is perceived to be beyond the ability of the individual to cope with effectively. (Not the the situation but the individuals perception and response to the situation)

🤛Suicide is a leading cause of non-natural death for all ages in San Diego County, second only to motor vehicle crashes.1 In 2010, a total of 372 San Diegans died by suicide

🤛one suicide affects the lives of at least six other people.

The last bullet is one of the most important to keep in mind. It is what the ones whom have left are also leaving behind this question of whom they will affect, yet not realizing the lives they have touched while here with us.

So I ask that if you took the time to read this post then answer that call to arms and help awaken that hope inside of you and others because it is up to us to help defend it. It’s up to you to help someone recognize it! There are also organizations that will help light your way through the fogginess of every day conundrums and stress. REAL TALK!

R.I.P. Dear friend you will always be remembered.

#Nami #ItsUp2Us